Category Teens

Not With My Daughter!

Not With My Daughter!
by Terry Vaughan
Skyhorse Publishing
Retail Price $16.95
Amazon Price: $13.56

Book Description: 

Every father experiences the anxiety of knowing that one day his daughter is going to do the inevitable and start dating. In addition to cleaning his shotgun, he can become her date’s worst nightmare by also arming himself with the body language and interview skills necessary to figure out who the potential boyfriend is in less than ten minutes.

In Not with My Daughter!, Terry Vaughan gives dads vital information on how to decode the gestures, facial expressions, and verbal statements of all prospective boyfriends. With two daughters of his own rapidly coming of age, Vaughan realized he couldn’t water-board every new boyfriend who came through his door. He came up with strategy that all dads can use to effectively “interview” and accurately assess the new men in their daughters’ lives. With Terry’s help, dads will learn how to

• Master the checklist of items that will accurately assess the boyfriend within seconds
• Recognize how his utilization of space and volume could be indicators of aggression
• Uncover words that are used to hide something and those that reflect sincerity

Based on his extensive military training, Vaughan provides dads with the skills and information they need to interpret what kinds of signals boyfriends are sending out, and then do something smart and positive with the information.

Review

This book was a hoot!  The author just says what every parent is thinking!  He gives great advice on reading body language, which can be used in a variety of situations.  While the book was worth while just from the content alone, it was also a very fun read.  And while the title indicates this book is for dads, it is really for anyone who wants to be able to read people better.

~Reviewed by Vincent E.

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    Middle School: The Inside Story
    By Cynthia Tobias
    Focus on the Family
    Retail Price $14.99
    Amazon Price: $12.30

    Book Description:

    Remember middle school? Many parents would rather not. It’s often a rough ride, filled with insecurity, peer pressure, awkwardness, and world-rocking change. This book provides practical, hands-on advice for helping your child through this minefield—with information about what he or she is really going through, but isn’t likely to share.

    Best-selling learning-styles expert Cynthia Tobias and veteran teacher Sue Acuña reveal what they’ve found by listening to kids when parents aren’t around—and give you insider tips on how to bless your middle-schooler with success in class, at home, and in relationships. Topics include advice for keeping communication lines open, predictable physical and social issues, and solutions for problems like self-centeredness and over-the-top emotions.

    Review

    This is a fantastic book for parents and teachers alike that will help you to understand the mind of the middle-school student.  You will gain insight not only into HOW they think, but WHAT they are thinking about, and the culture that they are immersed in.  This book was filled with great suggestions and the authors made use of stories and quotes from middle schoolers.  They share share better ways of communicating about a variety of topics where parents often miss the mark.

    The middle school years are difficult, no doubt.  But I remember talking to one of my kids favorite teachers and she told me that she truly enjoyed teaching this age group.  In fact, when she was deciding which grade to teach, she decided to teach middle school because she felt that “these kids deserved a teacher that liked them.”  This book will help you to become THAT teacher or parent who actually LIKES this age group.  This book is a winner.

    ~Reviewed by Helen M.

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      A Still Quiet Place

      A Still Quiet Place: A Mindfulness Program for Teaching Children and Adolescents to Ease Stress and Difficult EmotionsA Still Quiet Place
      By Amy Saltzman
      New Harbinger
      Retail Price $49.95
      Amazon Price: $34.78

      Book Description: 

      Teaching kids stress management skills early in life will help them to grow into happy and healthy adults. And if you work with children or adolescents, you know that kids today need these skills more than ever. The pressures they face in the classroom, on the playground, in their extracurricular activities, and at home can sometimes be overwhelming. So how can you help lay the groundwork for their success?A Still Quiet Place presents an eight-week mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) program that therapists, teachers, and other professionals can use to help children and adolescents manage stress and anxiety in their lives, and develop their natural capacities for emotional fluency, respectful communication, and compassionate action. The program detailed in this book is based on author Amy Saltzman’s original curriculum, which has helped countless children and adolescents achieve significant improvements in attention and reduced anxiety.

      One of the easiest ways to find the still quiet place within is to practice mindfulness—paying attention to your life experience here and now with kindness and curiosity. The easy-to-implement mindfulness practices in this guide are designed to help increase children and adolescents’ attention, learning, resiliency, and compassion by showing them how to experience the natural quietness that can be found within.

      The still quiet place is a place of peace and happiness that is alive inside all of us, and you can find it just by closing your eyes and breathing. For more information, visit www.stillquietplace.com.

      Review

      Today’s world is full of stress.  Even for kids.  Author Amy Saltzman condenses her curriculum on mindfulness for children and teens into a program that is manageable and useful for those who work with kids and teens, helping them manage stress and anxiety in their lives.  It works great for parents to use with their kids as well.  I used it with my ADHD son and it helped him deal with his anger, anxiety, and  impulse control problems. I recommend that you begin using this book and techniques to start teaching your child relaxation and self calming skills early.  If you start practicing what you are teaching your kids, you will find your owns stress/anxiety level improved as well!

      ~Reviewed by Karleigh C.

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        Brainstorm

        Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage BrainBrainstorm
        By Daniel J. Siegel
        Tarcher
        Retail Price $27.95
        Amazon Price: $17.68

        Book Description: 

        Between the ages of 12 and 24, the brain changes in important, and oftentimes maddening, ways. It’s no wonder that many parents approach their child’s adolescence with fear and trepidation. According to renowned neuropsychiatrist Daniel Siegel’s New York Times bestseller Brainstorm, if parents and teens can work together to form a deeper understanding of the brain science behind all the tumult, they will be able to turn conflict into connection and form a deeper understanding of one another.

        In Brainstorm, Siegel illuminates how brain development impacts teenagers’ behavior and relationships. Drawing on important new research in the field of interpersonal neurobiology, he explores exciting ways in which understanding how the teenage brain functions can help parents make what is in fact an incredibly positive period of growth, change, and experimentation in their children’s lives less lonely and distressing on both sides of the generational divide.

        Brainstorm is a New York Times bestseller and current nominee for a Books for a Better Life award.

        Review

        This is a guide to the biology behind just about every adolescent behavior a parent or teacher might encounter. Drawing from his extensive clinical experience, the author walks the reader through many situations he has helped resolve through an understanding of how teen brains grow and develop.  The author combines science, psychology, and direct experience with adolescents to create a warm-hearted, intelligent, and practical guide. His gentle humor and friendly exploration of some personal parenting mishaps make this a highly readable and helpful book. Parents will find the book immensely informative, reassuring, and useful.

        ~Reviewed by Dave H.

         

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          Daughter’s In Danger

          Daughters in Danger: Helping Our Girls Thrive in Today's CultureDaughters in Danger
          By Dr. Elayne Bennett and Dr. Meg Meeker
          Thomas Nelson
          Retail Price $24.99
          Amazon Price: $15.80

          Book Description: 

          Respected family advocate Elayne Bennett brings hope and encouragement to families and shows the way to save our daughters from the many threats they face. Many girls today are caught up in a world that devalues them and prioritizes perceived needs and desires, in ways that will break their very hearts. Much of our culture undermines girls and damages their souls.Elayne Bennett has worked tirelessly in urban, suburban, and rural environments to bring hope and guidance to the lives of girls. In Daughters in Danger she reveals:

          • How American families can rescue daughters from the negative and destructive patterns of our culture
          • Why progressive feminism is the wrong answer and an inadequate solution
          • How mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, friends, schools, colleges and universities can be involved in saving our daughters
          • The success of the Best Friends and Best Men program models

          We all—especially families—bear the responsibility for encouraging and supporting, training and directing, loving and cherishing daughters everywhere.  This book is an inspiring call to take action for their sakes.

           

          Review

          This was a fascinating read! I learned so much. Now I have more tools by which to teach my young daughter how to be aware of her surroundings. Now I can also be more thoughtful to those around me as we all have different and similar stories. Snap judgments no more; now I pause for more thought. I worry less for our safety because I am teaching my daughter how to be inclusive and open to her environment rather than shuttered off. We are learning to nurture and trust our intuition. We are learning the damage denial can cause and working through our own fears as a family.  This book is a call to action on behalf of our daughters and other young women who need to be mentored.

          ~Reviewed by Karleigh C.

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            Fashion Emergency

            “There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven.”

            Ecclesiastes 3:1

            My teenagers call me a fashion emergency. Actually, that’s not quite true. They used to call me a fashion emergency. These days, no words are necessary. I can tell they disapprove of my wardrobe as soon as I walk in the room.

            My 17-year-old daughter raises her eyebrows and gives the look to my 14-year-old daughter who is chewing her lip across the room. My 19-year-old son knows something is up – but he’s learned from his dad that it’s much easier to keep his mouth shut. He usually looks out the window.

            “What’s the problem?” I’ll ask – in an effort to spare further humiliation.

            “It’s just those shoes…” says my eldest daughter, “and I mean that skirt is so last century.”

            Last century! Does she mean 1999?

            “And Mom, what were you thinking when you put on that shirt,” says my youngest. “It’s like ten sizes too big.”

            Actually, she could be right because just like a department store, I should have those little size rings in my closet – “8, 10, 12, none of your business.” Without my reading glasses – I’m never sure what size I end up with.

            For many years, I ignored their rolling eyes – chalking it up to too many American Eagle commercials.  But recently, while preparing to attend a professional conference, I was feeling a little “frumpy” – and decided to ask my daughters to help me update my look. Little did I know the experience was going to resemble an episode of the “What Not to Wear” reality television show.

            We began in the tiny walk-in closet I “share” with my husband. (Actually, he has only 30% of the space but I am the one who never has anything to wear.)  In less than 15 minutes, the girls had informed me of the myriad fashion faux pax I was making and outlined a set of rules.

            1. Don’t pull your pants and skirts up too high on your waist.  (I tried to explain that after giving birth to three children, it was impossible to accurately locate my waist.)
            2.  Forget pastels.  These colors are only appropriate for the under five set. Not size five… age five.
            3. Never, ever, let your socks peek out of your tennis shoes.
            4. One word. Stillettos. (To which I added two words. Broken ankle.)
            5. Stop thinking everything has to be “comfortable.”

            This last “rule” is what brought me to my senses – and count my blessings. My teenagers may be up on the latest excruciating fashion trends – with nary a worry about future bunions – but I’ve already paid my fashion dues. Several decades ago with slippery Danskin wrap-around skirts, polyester pantsuits and platform shoes to rival those still worn by Elton John. I’ve earned the right to wear comfy “arch supporting” clogs, long denim skirts – even knee socks if I have the urge.  Fashion emergency or not – I will enjoy Thanksgiving dinner with an elastic waist — and grateful heart.

            The glory of the young is their strength; the gray hair of experience is the splendor of the old.    Proverbs 20:29 (New Living Bible)

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